What is your parenting style:
Shepherd or Sheepherder? Jesus was the Good Shepherd. He marked the path
and led the way! I believe He gave us a pattern. He gives us some clues
about good or true shepherds in the scriptures.
A Shepherd:
-leads his sheep. (Psalms 23:2)
-guides his sheep to safety. (Psalms 23:2) He goes before them removing the noxious weeds. (Psalms 23:5)-carries
the baby lambs close to him, in his coat. They hear, recognize his
voice, and respond to his voice. Because his gentle loving care his
sheep develop trust in him. (Isaiah 40:11)
-feeds his sheep. ( Ezekiel 34:14)
-protects
his sheep with his life. He places his body at the door to the fold to
protect the sheep from wolves. He uses his rod to rescue sheep, helping
to right them from a pit, or uses his rod to drive away the wolves. He
does not use the rod to beat his sheep. (John 10:11)
A Sheepherder-
- manages the sheep.
- drives his sheep from behind.
- prods the sheep.
- uses goats and dogs to bark at the sheep to keep them together in fear.
- does not protect his sheep but relies on the dogs and the sheep pen.
When
I think of Shepherd parenting I think of the gentle admonitions of the
living prophets on how to parent our children and the gentle admonitions
in the scriptures. We have been admonished:
- "Rear your children in
love, in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Take care of your
little ones. Welcome them into your homes, and nurture and love them
with all of your hearts." “Excerpts from Recent Addresses of President Gordon B. Hinckley,” Ensign, July 1997, 73).
- “To
nurture means to cultivate, care for, and make grow. … Nurturing
requires organization, patience, love, and work. Helping growth occur
through nurturing is truly a powerful and influential role bestowed on
women” (“Mothers Who Know,” Liahona and Ensign, Nov. 2007, 76, 77).
- "A soft answer turneth away wrath." Proverbs 15:1
- "How do parents teach these
attributes to their children? We will never have a greater opportunity
to teach and show Christlike attributes to our children than in the way
we discipline them. Discipline comes from the same root word as disciple and implies patience and teaching on our part. It should not be done in anger. We can and should discipline the way that Doctrine and Covenants 121 teaches us: “by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and
meekness, and by love unfeigned; by kindness and pure knowledge” (verses 41–42). These are all Christlike be’s that should be a part of who we, as parents and disciples of Christ, are." April 2011, Lynn G Robbins, "What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?"
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"Children need to work with their parents, to wash dishes with them, to
mop floors with them, to mow lawns, to prune trees and shrubbery, to
paint and fix up, to clean up, and to do a hundred other things in which
they will learn that labor is the price of cleanliness, progress, and
prosperity."Sept, 1996, Gordon B. Hinckley, "Four Simple Things to Help Our Families and Our Nations," First Presidency Message.
There is so much more to study in
the words of the prophets on parenting. It is clear that the Lord would
have us follow His pattern and not have us pattern our parenting after
the manner of men!
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